1 - Learn to talk.
Seduction always begins with conversation. You MUST first engage a woman’s mind if you want to engage with her body. Find out who she is, what she’s interested in, what her experiences have been. Ask her about sex, what she likes, what her fantasies are. Tell her what yours are. (Pro-tip: If early in the conversation, she mentions how she loves huge horse cocks, this is probably not the right partner for you. Move on). As you move into an erotic comfort zone with her (meaning that there’s clear sexual tension between you), tell her what you’d like to do. Be detailed. When, where, how, the setting. Describe how you think it would feel. Describe how much you want it, how it’s making your cock throb just thinking about it. Tell her how you couldn’t help but masturbate thinking about her. Before you ever turn on her body, you’ve got to turn on her mind. Mental sex is the BEST foreplay.
2 - Educate yourself on her anatomy.
For god’s sake, learn where the clitoris is, and what its purpose is. More than that, understand that women are COVERED in erogenous zones…it’s not all about the pussy. Your hot breath on her shoulder as you move in from behind to nibble the place where it connects with her neck can have far more turn-on effect than your clumsy fumbling around in her panties. Learn the specific variances of HER anatomy…some women like their nipples bitten and sucked, while to some, anything other than the most delicate of touching on their breasts is painful. Even in a single woman, there can be variances depending on the time of the month. Which leads me to…
3 - Pay the fuck attention.
Human sexual response is physiological. It’s observable. There are visible keymarkers that will tell you if you’re doing it right. PAY ATTENTION. Is her breathing getting deeper, louder, faster paced? Did her body arch toward you when you touched her, or did she pull back? Are her cheeks flushed? Did her nipples perk up? Read her body language, and adjust what you are doing accordingly. Err on the side of softness with each new thing that you do, and build up to more pressure/intensity based on her body’s responsiveness to your actions.
4 - SLOW DOWN
Yes, sometimes it’s going to be a quickie, wham bam thank you maam kind of thing. Sometimes, that’s all a woman wants. However, I hear far more often that there is a rush to insertion. This is a HUGE mistake, especially if you’re worried about your penis size. You know how blood engorges your penis, making it hard? Blood also engorges the vagina and vulva, making it smaller and tighter. This is directly to your benefit. If you’ve brought her to climax before you ever slide inside her, you’re going to find that she’s tighter and hotter than if you just go straight for the main course. Take the time to explore her body, finding all of her erogenous zones, and engaging them. Kiss her all over. Touch her, long and slow, tracing the curves of her hips, and letting your fingers dance lightly across the upper pubis before engaging her clit. Cup her vulva, letting the warmth of your hand transfer to her. Lick, nibble, and taste EVERYTHING. When you’re going down on her, treat it like her pussy is the most delicious ice cream you’ve ever had, complete with your own sounds of enjoyment. If you’re fully engaging her, you’re going to know when it’s time, because she will be so ready that her body will be begging you to be inside her.
5 - Fuck like you have a big dick, even if you don’t.
When you enter her, slide in slow, and just enough to feel the wetness. Back out, and then back in a little deeper. Repeat that process until you finally feel it slide completely home. Don’t get lost in your own sensation, no matter how good…think of your cock as a finger with which you are touching her inside. Don’t just jackhammer away, hold her tightly, and deliberately thrust inside her. Bury yourself to the hilt, and hold it there for a second, pressing into her as hard as you can. If you’re in a missionary position, adjust your position so that you’re “riding high”, with your pubis pressing into hers. Shift your hips as needed, and add some side to side motion, so that you’re touching her in different places inside as you move together. If you’re in a position where you can reach, touch her vulva and clitoris while you’re moving inside her. In all of these things, remember all the previous tips…talk to her, pay attention to her body’s responses, and take your time.
Spirit
You’re a Seeker. You’re kind and courteous and a great support to your friends. You have a wonderfully warm energy that is an inspiration to others. A sensitive soul with an expressive nature, you tend to be quite a romantic at heart. Sometimes you love nothing more than escaping into your very own dreamworld. Spontaneous new experiences can be really inspiring to you and you like exploring your creative side from time to time. Right now, life probably seems quite stressful. You feel like you never get any time for yourself. A healthy relationship really is the bedrock of a happy home, but it also takes a lot of energy and commitment to maintain. Make sure that with all the other distractions, your love life doesn’t end up at the bottom of the list. It’s important to remember to tap into your inner strength and to believe in yourself. Take on new challenges and stay stimulated so you remain enthusiastic and inspired by life. As a Seeker, you get excited by new ideas. You like adventure and original experiences that stimulate and challenge your status quo. Stay inspired with a rich mix of activities, and find time for hobbies that allow you to explore your creative side. Learn to recognize when you need variety in your life, and then incorporate it into your daily plans. You understand that talking things through can sometimes be the best way to get on the right track. A little self-awareness can go a long way. It’s amazing how helpful it can be to know there’s someone there to support you. Make sure you carve out time to seek advice when you need it.
Relationship
You would like to be able to share your spiritual side with your new partner. Feeling at peace with the world comes naturally when you’re travelling life’s path with your soulmate. You’re a deeply passionate person and will go to extreme lengths for love. You’re naturally open and find it easy to make connections. It’s all about intuition and chemistry and being swept off your feet. Love means opening yourself up to intense experiences that you’ll remember for the rest of your life. You are expressive and sensual and, so making a strong physical connection is important to you. It feels really good to lose yourself in the moment. There’s nothing like being in love to put a smile on your face, butterflies in your stomach and a spring in your step. Relationship tips: So you’re Passionate but what tips can we give for when you’re looking for love? Take it easy. Allowing your new relationship to develop gradually would be a really healthy approach for you. Slow and steady wins the race in this case. Make friends. Connecting on a physical level is really important to you. But set strong foundations by getting to know each other first. Slow and steady wins the race. Take things at a sensible pace so you’ll keep your feet on the ground and stay realistic about what will work in your everyday life. You are naturally warm and trusting. Just make sure to follow your instincts and listen to your head as well as your heart before diving in too deep.
Money
The way to your heart is through your stomach! While you’re happy to get creative in the kitchen, you’d love to be able to eat in amazing restaurants whenever the mood strikes. Your drive and motivation mean you know what you want out of life and you’re not afraid to go for it. You have a taste for the finer things, but you know they’re not easy to come by. You’re focused and determined, with the ambition to achieve your vision. Just make sure you take time to admire the view rather than heading as fast as you can to the destination.
Health
Unappealing as it may seem, it would be good to try to be a bit more active every day. You might be surprised at how much you’d actually enjoy regular exercise. It may sound hard to believe, but endorphins are better than chocolate if you just give them a chance! You may even find that you’re in a better mood more often. Start off with something that isn’t too intimidating, like climbing the stairs instead of taking the elevator. You might even consider signing up for a few personal training sessions in the gym so that you have a program that’s tailored just for you. You may need to think about making a few changes what you eat too. Maybe you could try making homemade versions of your favorite restaurant meals to reduce the sodium and fat content and eat healthier without compromising too much on taste.
Home
Ever dreamed about living the A-list lifestyle with a luxury villa and a pool perfect for parties? Thought so! Who needs stress and deadlines when you could be chilling in the sun all day or paying a visit to your own swim-up bar? What’s not to love?
Entertainment
You love music. Your life is definitely set to a soundtrack. The atmosphere and energy of a live gig makes you tick. There’s just something amazing and uplifting about seeing a great musician play that you can’t get through a pair of speakers. You get a buzz from being as close to the action as you can.
Style
You like to take things easy. Life’s busy enough without having to worry about getting dressed up every day. It’s about maximum comfort with a splash of style, so it’s hard to beat your favorite pair of jeans. But don’t forget how good it can feel to give yourself a makeover every now and then. It can work wonders for your self-esteem to refresh your wardrobe, spruce up your hair and put on a great. So make sure you schedule a shopping trip every few months. You deserve it!
Travel
You’re inquisitive, open-minded and interested in history. You love to discover new things and experience new places. For you, the tourist trail is best avoided. After all, it’s the hidden gems that make traveling so exciting! You love to thoroughly immerse yourself in culture, so chances are you’ll end up in a museum or gallery at some point on your trip.
Anton Chekhov
